Sometimes I find myself spending too much time on my smart phone. Going on this site, going on that site. You’d think after being on a computer all day I’d be sick of looking into a screen by the end of the day. Nope. I don’t watch too much TV. Not really at all. I do like watching movies. It’s a great way to get my mind off of everything. I spent all weekend watching Twilight with a friend of mine. And I mean ALL 5 lol. It’s one of my all time favorite epic love stores. I’m a sucker for a good love story. I probably shouldn’t watch these types of movies because I imagine that’s how love should be, epic!
Anyways, I made it a point to read before bed last night instead of getting on my phone. Sometimes I forget how much more rewarding reading is than Facebook. I’ve been working on finishing Safe Haven for a while now. Not because I’m a slow reader, I just have 4 other books I’m working. All 4 of them are self development, finance type books that require a pen and notebook. So yes, it’s taking me a while
I’ve seen the movie, Safe Haven. Pretty good. But I must say that the book is so much more entertaining. I’m getting pretty excited thinking about it now, lol. Most definitely I will finish it today. I’ll have to find time to cook, clean up and wash the dogs as well. I’m already exhausted! We’ll see what happens. Moods change all the time
So, back to the reason why I’m writing today. I should write, everyday actually. It’s just I lack consistency. I pay the price for it, trust me.
I did an experiment yesterday. I logged how many times I got on my phone from the moment I woke up until I went to bed. Even the amount of time I spent online. And this is with company and 4 hours of movie watching. OMG. It was tooooo much. I mean, I’m looking into a screen just waaay too much. Granted I blog and I market social media so that means it’s kind of like a job. It’s something I like to do and in order to reach my goal, I have to be in front of the computer everyday. After a long day of my normal 5:30-2 pm job, I still have my outside interests that I’m bound to. But at least it’s by choice I came to the conclusion that I just need to be a little more disciplined with managing my time. No filling it with wasteful tasks. Like checking emails or going on Instagram. When it’s time to write, I need to stay focused. NO distractions. If I stuck to my plan every single day, OMG my book would be done! But it’s not. Why? My lack of discipline and consistency. My target was mid 2014. It’s not going to happen :(.. … Cry me a river right? Yes, I know. I only have myself to blame. No excuses.
Here are some thoughts I tend to tell myself when I’m slacking.
Life keeps moving, direct your course.
Simple habits build momentum, you must be consistent.
Change is automatic, progress is not, therefore discipline is key.
Find your center when you’re distracted. If you know your WHY, you’ll always find your way back.
Talking to myself, that’s how I stay grounded
Let’s talk about why being in silence, alone with no connection is difficult. I think it scares a lot of people. That would mean we would have to face a lot of shit that’s wrong with ourselves and in our life. I mean, there isn’t anything to distract you. All you can do is think. Normally when we think, we tend to over think. What comes to mind most? Everything that isn’t going right.
We medicate ourselves with cellphones, TV, alcohol, drugs and even food. These things comfort us don’t they? I mean why would we want to feel any kind of pain or stress. They’re unwanted feelings and for good reason. They suck! So we look to all these others things to distract us. It helps us keep a balance of some sort. Keeps us going, living, existing. What would it be like without alcohol? OMG. Forget football, alcohol is EVERYONE’S favorite pastime. Well almost. Every adult I know drinks. I take that back, I know one guy who doesn’t and another person because she’s a recovering alcoholic. BUT, I know a lot of people and to only be able to name just two, that should tell us something. I mean we drink socially, yes. But have you ever been upset and said, I need a drink? I know I have.
Why? Why do we need all these other things to make us feel better? I guess being adult comes with tons and tons of responsibilities. It does, no need to guess!
For parents, the fact is…the last person that gets taken care of is ourselves. We’re working so hard trying to make everyone else happy besides ourselves. We are constantly in the action of always doing and not being. Who are with without our kids, partner or job? Demands, demands, demands.
Majoring in minor things. Stressing out over things that are really not important.
Why do we do that? It’s actually quite frustrating. This post relates well to a previous one of mine about Awareness. I really think that’s the key. It will help us makes sense of things and find balance. We have to take care of our family but we cannot forget that our own well-being is extremely important. If we’re not truly happy inside, it will show. And in time we will break. We’re like walking, talking, doing robots. No time to really be ourselves, as an individual. I’m undeniably guilty of this. But I’ve learned. Through countless low periods, I know that I must take care of me in order to take care of everything else. Hence why I have a blog, why I got into multiple ventures. Parents, take a step back and look at your life. Ask all the tough questions…like who are you? What did you use to dream about? How often do you do the things you love? Be honest. Then tell yourself that your needs are just as important as everyone else. From there find a balance. It’s a win, win situation for all parties involved. The happy you makes the best you.
My ending thoughts…yes, I need to be more consistent. And yes, no more filling my time with wasteful things. And yes, I need a break from time to time. Solitude, I need that. I spread myself pretty thin with family, friends, work and life goals…remembering to stop and breathe isn’t always easy but a must!
Take it easy friends XOXO